This week I asked my family and friends, “on a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you with your life?” The average was 7. The maximum score was 10, and it belonged to my eight year old son. The minimum score was 2 and it belonged to an exhausted new mother. Only one of my friends aroused my interest with her answer. She said: “I live my life multi-dimensionally, so I cannot give you just one number. My health is not good, so it is 2, but on another level I am publishing my new book, so I feel 8 on the scale of happiness, I feel my soul is strong, it is 9,…” This answer was the inspiration for this article. How aware are we of the multiple dimensions of our lives?
Generally, we can divide our lives into the four dimensions shown in Figure 1:
Physical – This dimension includes our physical health, which is defined as the ability to lead a healthy life. The necessity of physical activity, eating healthy foods, and sleeping well can be considered wellness in the physical dimension.
Mental – This dimension includes our willpower, intelligence, attitude, mindset, and growth as an individual.
Emotional – This dimension includes our feelings, adulthood, and relationships with others.
Spiritual – This dimension includes our religion, faith, traditions, and beliefs, and shows us how to internalize and expand the meaning and sense of purpose in our lives.
Rumer Godden writes, in A House with Four Rooms: “There is an Indian proverb that says that everyone is a house with four rooms, a physical, a mental, an emotional, and a spiritual. Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time but unless we go into every room every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person.”
My grandmother says: “your mind is where you hurt,” it’s where all your emotions accumulate. So, if you are unhappy in one room, do not let your emotions accumulate in this room. Deepak Chopra, in The Book of Secrets, writes: “we are multidimensional creatures,” and he gives the following examples: “Picasso was a superb artist but a terrible husband; Mozart a divine creator of music, but weak physically; Lincoln a master of myth and an archetype, but devastated emotionally.”
We should enjoy life, although there is partial unhappiness, by increasing the dimensions of life. We should open more and more rooms, we should feel love, creativeness, imagination. I leave you with a quote by Rumi:
“Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.”
Author: Neslihan Eti